Is A.A. and 12 steps the only way?

So after reading a post on Harsh Reality from OM it got me thinking about Alcoholics Anonymous, 12 step programs and people having or not having success in dealing with addiction problems. People in the 12 step programs who have long term sobriety will often state that the success rate in the fellowship is 100% if you do what is suggested , now anyone who has actually attended meetings know that this is not true. I’m not sure what the real numbers are or the stats when talking about 12 step programs and their ability to keep people sober, but I have often asked myself and wondered what other people think about the idea of their being alternative ways to really fight addiction with long term success? Is there another way that really works?

Before I continue this posting, you should know this. If you don’t have an addiction problem or have never been truly addicted to anything , I DON’T CARE about your opinion on this matter. Now that said I have dealt with addiction in many forms and have attended meetings on and off since the age of 18 , and now being 43 y.o I can certainly say that I have  personally seen people have great success following this 12 step model of recovery. I have also seen people that have had success and turned their life around not following this model, but the latter are few and far between and doesn’t mean that they don’t exist. I have not had much success when not following the 12 step model of recovery, but there was a time in my life not too long ago when I found a hobby and passion that I truly loved. That passion was motocross and working on motorcycles. Riding with my son and my best friend on a Sunday morning and as many days a week as I could really became a much needed factor in enjoying life and relieving stress.

Many people that I have seen outside 12 step fellowships that try to beat addiction often turn to health and exercise as a means to help with the everyday battle of fighting an addiction problem. Some people turn to church and “GOD” if you will and use religion as a ways and means to battle this problem. More often that not people that subscribe to the whole religion thing and don’t find other things to fill their life with fail miserably. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen that subscription cancelled. The religious method is very often cultural in many ways. African Americans and sometimes people of Latin decent often try it this way,but  a lot of people that went to church in their youth tend to try and fall back to this as a means to deal with addiction. I do think that having a support group is really important because when dealing with an issue like this you have to able to talk to people that have been there.I can’t think of another sickness where having someone to talk to that has been there is as imperative as with addiction.  Also breaking habits that you have built over the years of using / drinking is mandatory, so what do you now do with the time you have that used to be spent getting your alcohol or drugs? How do you now deal with the everyday stress in your life?  When active in addiction all these things are dealt with by picking up. One of the little tricks I used to use when I had really tough cravings to drink is running and getting myself an ice cream sundae or ice cream cone of some kind, and more often than not, making sure it had chocolate in that equation. There all kinds of studies out there where chocolate touches some of the same receptors in the brain as opiates.

The bottom line question here is , Is there another formula for success out there other than 12 step programs and going back to church that have really worked? I think that finding a passion really helps. Exercise and meditation can’t possibly hurt your chances and finding alternative ways to deal with stress are all must have’s as far as I’m concerned. That whole Idea of (I’m sure you’ve seen the commercial) “I was an addict for 10 years, NOW I’M NOT” is such BULLSHIT . I can’t even get started on that brainwashing. I truly believe once you are an addict, if you aren’t careful you can always fall back into active addiction. So what is the formula you have seen work? can the 90 days really break any bad habit by doing something else?

Posted on April 2, 2014, in Addiction Recovery, Alcoholics Anonymous, The Realness and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 11 Comments.

  1. So I can only share from my experience and today I use the AA fellowship and 12 steps to help keep sober today, after 23 years of using and drinking. I am nearly fifteen months sober and everyday is still a challenge. I am not against using other programs to get people sober, AA is just what works for me. I do have a friend who use his religion and has almost a year of sobriety, and another friend who stopped on will power, however he has major anger issues!
    For me sobriety is so much more than the physical not drinking and using. It is letting go and moving forward in my life and the steps and fellowship helps with that. I do have a higher power which the aInchor in my personal program however I cant remember the last time I went to church! Outside the AA walls I try to excersize, I recently ran my first 5k, and I am eating a little healthier that all has to do with making my body feel good after all those years of abuse. I also have a therapist that helps me with past and current mental issues, because lets face it, Im 38 years old and I am just now experiencing life, the good and the bad! But my day always starts with sobriety, thanks for the article!



    • Thanks JR, many of my closest friends are in the fellowship and I still attend when I am able.Congrats on the 5K man that’s awesome! What they say in the program about getting a year sobriety is so true. Now the work truly begins. You learned how to remain abstinent, now you have learn to stay that way and live life!…Not easy but worth it! thanks for the response!


  2. Reblogged this on J.R. Valdes and commented:
    Very good article regarding recovery and what works for you!


  3. I have been an addict since i was 14 and i got clean by separating myself from people places and things that had anything to do with drugs or alcohol, which was hard for me because that was everyone except for my husband and my children . and included my fathet who i was very close with.. i had to re learn everything but without drinking and drugs it was hard, but very worth it i have never been as happy as i am now i have been clean and sober for 2 year and 8 months and for the first time in my life i have no desire for alcohol or drugs very good post.


    • Congrats on your sobriety and recovery! Do you attend meetings? besides your family, do you do anything for stress relief? have any hobbies you love?…how do you have fun and blow off steam? thanks for responding!


      • No i don’t attend any meetings i stopped going because there were people at the meetings selling drugs. I have found that my blog really helps to relieve stress, also i have my zombie video games. My kids and i have zombie parties where we dress up and make zombie themed food, my husband and i travel some, and then i have 4 kids so i stay pretty busy. As far as fun gos i avoided that word for a long time, i was scared of it but the longer i stayed clean the more i realized life in general is pretty fun. You just have to stay clean long enough to see it.


      • Thats cool! I love zombies! do you guys watch the walking dead?…what did you think of the finale?…Rick is about to go sick on those terminus people huh?..maybe bite some more necks?..LoL AND WHAT THE HECK IS ZOMBIE Themed food?…Pieces of humans?..candy ears and gummy fingers?..LoL Anyway I started this blog to support my t-shirt site originally. I sell all kinds of products including kids clothing you should check out my zombie section when you get a chance, it also has a TON of recovery type products too which we originally started the t-shirt company for. Recovery oriented t-shirts and products. We just moved into many other directions as time went on. Its awesome we met here, cool to make sober friends all over the world. I’m from CT, how bout you?


      • The walking dead is my biggest hobby i have three seasons on dvd and will have the fourth the day it is released. I actually have posts on my blog specifically about the walking dead. I am a die hard fan. Zombie themed food i make meatloaf hands, cupcake brains, eyeball deviled eggs, zombie vomit punch, and weenie fingers. I am from virginia. And it is great to meet you. Ih and i loved the finale.


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